Apr 03

Using Questions to Live Happier – Immediately

Posted in Perspective | Email This Post Email This Post | by James Rick

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I found myself going down an emotional road that was well worn and crowded with lost Souls. I too had lost my way for a moment – but gripped in the fear / terror of emotions that I thought I had long disposed of, I remembered something from better times:

#1: QUESTIONS are the starting place for controlling thoughts in the conscious mind. Your power for redirecting focus. And focus determines how you feel. If you want to improve any emotion ask yourself better questions.

I remembered another thing about questions:

#2: Some of the best questions you’ll ever ask yourself take the focus off of “me” and “my happiness” and lead you to a mission greater than yourself. Such as: How can I add the most value right now to someone in need, wants help and I could help solve their problem?”

Here’s why redirecting focus through asking better questions works:

#3 Happiness is not something you seek but the absence of negative emotion. Happiness is a state of clarity, like a deep body of water clear all the way to the bottom.

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The fastest way to clear the water of your psyche is to stop stirring it up.. calming the mind by either relaxing in meditation or if you have a hard time concentrating at first – ask yourself what you could do TODAY to honestly service someone or many with no real though of gain for yourself.

And if you are low on funds and must work to survive, work to survive – but still find ways to channel your time, energy, talents or money (whatever valuable resources you have in abundance) into causes that are greater than yourself. Greater than the PR (publicity) you might receive for your efforts (which benefits the Ego and puts focus back on “me”). Begin with those closest to you and expand your circle of service outwards. And only really invest your resources in those who WANT IT. Remember – you cannot change or fix someone that doesn’t feel there is anything wrong. Aside from making every effort to improve their environment (which will undoubtedly have an affect on them) there isn’t much you can do dealing with them directly.. so move on.

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And so armed with this knowledge of asking better questions and redirecting my focus to a purpose greater than myself – I immediately found myself on a path far more enjoyable than the one I was just on.

2 Responses to “Using Questions to Live Happier – Immediately”

  1. Victor Says:
    April 10th, 2010 at 3:18 pm

    Excellant article! What happened to the downloading of your book-”Full Potential”?

  2. Victor Says:
    April 10th, 2010 at 3:21 pm

    Every moment we’re deciding on what to focus on and it’s through questioning that directs focus.

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