I’ve been working through some deep emotions at this time I haven’t been completely in touch with. It’s amazing how things open up when you just make the decision to go there. I want to share this with you as I see this kind of emotional healing as the key to a better world.
There is so much more joy in loving deeply and being real, more than all the money or surface level pleasures in the world. It’s the emotional connection with life that brings out the richness of the experience. And it’s the honest relationships (very few) we have in life that help us reach deepest levels of emotional connection. It can be scary to openly love on a deep level, because this is where the most pain can be felt. Trusting another person to love you through this process is the most delicate of contracts.
There is one thing that truly unites us all in being human: we have emotionally suffered in one way or another. Losing someone close to us or putting all our trust in the wrong hands. There’s a complicated story for every person on Earth but the result is the same: the emotional weight and fullness of its uncontrollable pain.
What you do with that pain is really key.
Avoidance response: turn away, hide from it, deny it exists and live in your head.
Restless response: You can distract yourself and restlessly try to move on from one thing to the next.
Confrontational response: respond with anger and seek revenge.
These are all just strategies of coping with emotional pain.
But emotions are like mines.. They don’t just go away until you’ve dug them out and cleared them away, or triggered them by accident and are forced to deal with them then.
Humans are a simple species to understand: It’s our responses to emotional pain that almost entirely explain the infinite varieties of our behavior, for better or worse.
To make the most of this life and ensure you do not opt for the seemingly easier route of skimming across the surface after your first few major emotional challenges , you’ve got to BE WILLING to dive back down DEEP into the pain. Allow it to flow through you, embrace the hurt, the tears and all of it, fully without self judgment or regret. And without trying to change anything. Just ACCEPTING it, as painful as the reality might be. Not necessarily dwelling on any negative aspect of it either. But simply observing as your emotions burn at great intensity, observing that such a powerful force exists and questioning what positive can be learned from it. Like a curious child witnessing the great forces of nature for the first time.
Eventually, after facing the storm completely head on and allowing it to pass rather than running from it, you will experience a clearing. And in that clearing you will find gifts in the form of insights waiting for you. Furthermore, you won’t be as afraid about the next storm, now that know how to handle it.
The fear of the storm never really goes away. But the willingness to love at the deepest level of your being comes from the CONFIDENCE that you are stronger than the storm. And that you will not hide from it should it arrive again, you will go out to meet it. And you will find the gifts it leaves behind.
To truly experience life we must learn to navigate with our head and our hearts, and learn to master the inevitable winds and waves of our journey with the fortitude of captain that has sailed through many storms.
1- Cherish the relationships you have where you can love deeply, openly and honestly.
2- If you’ve been hurt in the past and have opted to cope with it in any other way besides confronting it, now is always the best time for clearing emotions.
3- Be confident that you will get better at handling the inevitable storms and don’t be afraid to love deep and fast when it’s deserved.