Create A “To-Feel” List

Prioritize a “to-feel” list rather than a to-do list.
By focusing on what you want to feel, a to-do list will evolve out of that. You will find that as fulfilling activities rise to the top, you have more fuel for long term achievement and you enjoy the ride significantly more. In fact, in this way, even if you don’t make the destination – the journey alone was worth it.meditation

Recreate Yourself

Perhaps one of the most liberating insights I ever had is that our self image is not set in stone. Like wet clay through childhood it might be greatly shaped by parents, friends and experiences.. but before it hardens in our teens or early 20s we have the power to greatly reshape it. And even into adulthood, though the clay might be hard as marble and not as easily reshaped, we all have the power of a master sculptor and every day we can chip away at it, to reveal the best version of ourselves.

How is this done? Words are the most powerful forms of shaping self image. Through words behaviors are born. And through behaviors, the brain develops references or files that it uses to justify the way it perceives itself.

As a kid I literally programmed the things I wanted to possess like confidence, attraction, love, and success into my brain through repetition. For example there was a time when I greatly lacked confidence in myself, and every night I would listen to a self-hypnosis audio on greater self confidence. Why self hypnosis? Because it drops the words past the filter of the conscious directly into the subconscious where the self image is directly affected.

Most of the time a person’s identity / self-image is formed unconsciously.. Each day of childhood builds upon the next and one day (usually in their teens) they wake up to it and there it is. And it plays an active role in how they feel about life, themselves or their abilities and what they attempt: for better or worse. But the reality is we all have the power to play an active role in our our identity / story’s development or redesign!

Key points:
- Have a vision for the kind of person you want to be: your ideal version of self
- know that the path for getting there is repetition of the right words. Use feeling and your whole body as you say them for maximum impact. Or deep relaxation in self-hypnosis so the words bypass the conscious filter and drop down directly into the subconscious.
- Avoid making ANY negative statements about self, or using any labels that lock you into negative patterns (for example I do not believe in the labeling of psychological disorders and lifetime prescriptions for treatment as MOST disorders are just the result of temporary distortions of self, but with labels they become repeated their whole lives and therefore permanent)
- Repetition of the right words leads to right feelings and behaviors, which leads to the references your brain needs to justify the new self image.
- the process of development and redesign is never complete, which means you can forever improve upon your concept of self as long as you let go of past (especially limiting references) and keep upgrading the words you use to define yourself and your story, and keep acting in ways that are higher value to support the new story for real! And ultimately confirm the new story through better results in life itself.

Bottom line:
-Remember, it all starts with the words we use. Replace all negative self-talk or labels with more positive / empowering statements and labels that you decide for yourself.
- Don’t use the past as an excuse for current results or remaining static in your current self image. Transform every “negative” memory (even traumatic ones), into a positive fuel to accelerates you into a future possibility that would not have been possible without it!

Strive for Something Meaningful

Surfing is a lot like life in that we spend most of our time striving for something. You spend so much more time in the water exerting effort than you do actually riding the wave. Similarly in life, we spend the majority of our lives in the journey, and very little time at the destination. In fact, as soon as we arrive somewhere we are usually ready to go somewhere else.

The key to surfing and life is to enjoy the striving. To know that it makes you stronger. To know that effort takes on meaning, when you are striving for something meaningful. And when you do catch the wave you were striving for, appreciate that small window of time when everything seems to flow.

 

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Prioritize Daily Fulfillment Over Long Term Achievement – You Will Be Happier

All those years of playing strategy games on the computer growing up as a kid, I did not realize much I was preparing myself for strategic action in the bigger game of REAL LIFE.

But first I had to stop wasting my time and get serious about what I really wanted to do in life. And then I had to start experimenting, beginning with my first business. Frankly it was many years of hard work with very little return .. We are talking working often times 7 days a week making $2 an hour, living at my first office in St. George, Utah at age 17.. For a couple of years!

After working so hard for 3 years to get out of the $30 k in debt I had built up (yep, credit card and family loans) and building up a nice surplus only to lose it all when I over-expanded and over-hired with a huge office in India, I realized that working for money alone is risky business! Since you can lose if all at any time, and all that time you spent to make it is gone forever. I realized its far better to invest in upgrading your brain, living a life that is fulfilled by amazing experiences and people. Even if you lose all your money, stuff or status, you did not waste one minute, because you got to experience fulfillment throughout the journey and you will continue to experience fulfillment even if the journey has gains and losses (which it will). Plus constantly upgrading your brain combined with healthy eating and exercise is the best insurance policy!

After my first major financial loss, my strategy for living completely shifted to one of fulfillment first and achievement second. And I realized that while its not always possible to live in a state of ecstasy all the time, it certainly is possible most of the time if you are focused on fulfillment as a primary objective, and you are strategic about it.

Fulfillment for me is the product of a good routine, close connections and only comparing myself against the best version of myself.

When it comes to achievement.. Its a fun way to test your capabilities and contribute in a bigger way.
But never again for the sole purpose of monetary gain, which lacks the primary objective of fulfillment.

What is the most strategic way to go about achievement? Big dreams, great teams and high value routines.

While there are no guarantees in life, there are always ways to increase probabilities of desirable outcomes through being strategic and consistent with action.

Key points
- If you live for daily FULFILLMENT first, you will enjoy the journey and not feel as though you wasted time
- If you are strategic about long term ACHIEVEMENT and take action every day you increase the probabilities of desirable outcomes
- Be proactive! Nothing in nature survives very long if it is reactive or stagnant.

Don’t Create an Offer, Create an Opportunity

Living life at a higher level means finding ways to create opportunities for other people.

Opportunities are defined as: unique options ( rare and often time-bound) with significantly more upside (benefits) than downside (cost).

Examples are abundant:
- Creating employable opportunities: having a great attitude, track record and education SPECIFIC to your field of employment, where hiring you is an ‘opportunity’ for a company.
- Creating work opportunities: not only with better compensation, but better environments, better leadership, more freedom and lifestyle.. all of which can trump a better pay check.
- Creating business opportunities: opportunities to invest for equity ownership and / or performance (example: profit based) and commission (sales based ) opportunities
- Creating mentorship opportunities: for people that need specific strategies to accelerate their progress in achieving specific goals
- Creating product opportunities: bringing together scattered resources and creating a product that people want; that buying is an ‘opportunity’ because they cannot get it anywhere else.
- Creating service opportunities: bringing together a team of top notch people and training them to execute at a level that makes working with them an ‘opportunity’

The last piece (NOT the first piece) is marketing. Specifically knowing how to position and present your unique offer so that the benefits of your opportunity are clearly presented, to the right people.

Most marketing is ‘hype’ because what is being offered is NOT an opportunity.

It takes time and a high level of creativity and care to develop an offer that is truly what can be defined as an opportunity.

But as this small list shows, we all have the ability to create real opportunities for others that can advance not only our own position in life, but everyone we help!